Low self-confidence? Worried about your future? Gayle’s seagull can help you soar high above the concerns of your daily life!
What are three fundamental life issues that you are dealing with now in your life?
1. Guilty conscience
2. Lack of confidence
3. Fear
Tell me a dream you remember. It can be an old one, a repetitive dream, a nightmare, or one that you’re sure you understand.
I dreamt I was coming home in a huge block of flats, I think the top follow, right next to the sea, like a pier and a promenade. I was crossing a a parking lot toward this house. The sea had risen above the pier and was flooding the parking lot. I was wading through the water. I wasn’t afraid. I looked out at this great, glistening sea. I rejoiced at being by the sea! I came to the entrance to this big flat. The step to get up to the door was gone! I couldn’t get in! I opened the door and there were many painters inside. One gave me his small finger and helped me up. They were painting thick, white paint over a yellow paint on the wall. I needed to get to the lift. It was all covered up and I couldn’t get to it.
Why do you think that you had this dream?
I haven’t made many thoughts yet! The sea was a wonderful experience. This water was overflowing life! It was strange that I couldn’t get to where I apparently lived.
If it were playing at a theater, what name would be on the marquee?
Wild Sea and Clutter!
These are the characters in the dream…
If one character had something especially important to tell you, what would it be?
The clutter!
Now remember how as a child you liked to pretend you were a teacher or a doctor? It’s easy and fun for you to imagine that you are this or that character in your dream and answer some questions I ask, saying the first thing that comes to your mind. If you wait too long to answer, that’s not the character answering – that’s YOU trying to figure out the right thing to say!
Clutter, would you please tell me about yourself and what you are doing?
I am covering up, spreading myself over…
What do you like most about yourself? What are your strengths?
I am covering or transforming something and making it all look nice and good and white. I’m protecting, transforming.
Are you clutter? You don’t sound like clutter to me…
No. I don’t feel like I’m loads of rubbish that’s in the way.
What do you dislike most about yourself? Do you have weaknesses? What are they?
I think I’m covering up and hiding something underneath.
Cover, you are in Gayle’s life experience, correct? She created you, right? Cover, what aspect of this person do you represent or most closely personify?
Pretending or performing. Hiding something.
Cover, if you could be anywhere you wanted to be and take any form you desired, would you change? If so, how?
I’d like to lift off what I’m covering. I see a seagull, flying freely.
(Continue, answering as the transformed object, if it chose to change.)
Seagull, tell us about yourself!
I don’t want to be a cover. That’s static and hiding something. As a seagull I’m very free. I float with the wind!
Seagull, how would you score yourself 0-10, in confidence, compassion, wisdom, acceptance, peace of mind, and witnessing? Why?
Confidence: 10 I feel carried by the breeze and feel very free.
Compassion: 7 I am enjoying being on my own. It feels almost self-centered.
Wisdom: 7
Acceptance: 10
Inner Peace: 10
Witnessing: 10
(Character,) if you scored tens in all six of these qualities, would you be different? If so, how?
I would come down from soaring and see what’s going on down below.
Since you are an imaginary seagull you can do both. How would that be for you?
That would be fulfilling.
How would the life of Gayle be different if she naturally scored high in all six of these qualities all the time?
She would have this sense of freedom and lightness that I have!
If you could live the life of Gayle for her, how would you live it differently?
I think I would be more egotistical, actually! With that freedom, just fly up there! That would be good for her. It would bring an ease, a lightness to daily life!
If you could live Gayle’s waking life for her today, would you handle her three life issues differently? If so, how?
1. Guilty conscience: I think I’d just let go of it, actually. It’s lovely!
2. Lack of Confidence: I really enjoy flying! I wouldn’t be too worried about what others think, actually!
3. Fear: I would rise up about it. The fear feels like it’s down there on the rocks. It feels like I’m disentangling myself, freeing myself from my fears, flying up here…
What three life issues would you focus on if you were in charge of her life?
1. Get on with it and FLY!!!!
In what life situations would it be most beneficial for Gayle to imagine that she is you and act as you would?
Moments when fear comes up, that something is going to happen to the children… to ride away from that drama.
Seagull, do you do drama? If not, why not?
I am alone. I’m not part of a gaggle!
What is your secret for staying out of drama?
I have all this space above that I can lift up into!
Why do you think that you are in this person’s life?
Because she’s feeling more and more enclosed about her future prospects. Money worries and the question, “What is my task in life?” I don’t have any of that! The wind is there to carry me! I don’t feel irresponsible!
How is Gayle most likely to ignore what you are saying to them?
She wouldn’t take the space or time to lift off inwardly.
What would you recommend that she do about that?
She needs to allow herself to be carried by the breeze…Less “must dos” and more time to breathe. The breathing is lovely, long, slow breaths up here!
I think this person had this dream because
Don’t try to get to the flat. Stay outside!
I think this dream event happened or (some character) was in the dream because…
They are transforming, changing things. It’s not that important to me!
What have you heard yourself say?
To lift up out of the tangle that could be fear or guilty conscience that sticks to me. And also to trust myself and therefore find self-confidence. Don’t bother about what others think! To enjoy soaring for my own in my life!
If this experience were a wake-up call from the most central part of who you are, what do you think it would be saying to you?
To let go of these worries of having to know what the future will be like. To allow the wind to carry me. To trust and know that life will unfold.
While this seagull wasn’t actually in Gayle’s dream, he is an important part of her life dream. He personifies qualities that she needs to find and amplify within herself in order to break out of years of conditioning that keep her stuck. Let her seagull inspire you to soar above the drama of your life!
